Being what you are
08 May, 2014
Being what you are
Why is there such a big hullabaloo in our society about being what we actually are? Why are so many serious people all agog about accepting or not accepting the unconventional sexual orientation, alternative sexual identity and same-sex marriage? Because, most probably, we do not want all these uncustomary ways of our self-expression to become standard, routine and anticipated! Understandable! But why is there such a stormy controversy? Because, in principle, the entire world is in disagreement on the issue,
and we are part of that freshly born world, which differs drastically from the previously existent one, where we had lived only two or three decades ago!
As anywhere else on the planet, in Georgia too, there have always been, there are and there will be the people of various sexual orientations until the end of time. The only difference is that, when I was a little younger, most of t he homosexual personae would not identify themselves as ones and preferred to stay sheltered in closet, surreptitiously pursuing their affordable happiness and furtively securing their peaceful existence. Today, when the world has changed so radically and has become so tolerant and civilized – if it has indeed – the homosexual men and women are hurrying to emerge from closet, asking for identical treatment and equal rights. Part of the world likes the newly liberated attitudes, and part of it hates to accept the lately generated philosophy of sexual relationship. Georgia is stuck somewhere in between those two approaches. On the government level, the gay issue is being gingerly handled because the Georgian administration is aware that, without accepting the new way of thinking, the world will not take us as western-oriented, refined and enlightened society. And, as we all know very well, Georgia’s survival depends much on how the West wants to treat it. The immediate result of the Georgian government’s prudent and balanced effort to this end is that the ‘issue’ has already found reflection in national legislation – the so called ‘anti-discrimination bill’ has been signed into law. What about the grassroots level and the realm of Georgian orthodox believers? You better don’t ask! Rejection! Utter denial! Overwhelming refutation! This part of Georgia refuses to recognize the law, which purports that nobody should be discriminated in this country for any possible reason. In this fraction of the Nation, phobia persists and creates every imaginable prerequisite to obstruct the mentioned law, which intends to eliminate hatred and discrimination, based on varied human sexuality. The opponents of the anti-discrimination law are insisting that nobody should be discriminated against in general, but they also demand that the people of nontraditional sexual orientation do not put the propaganda machine in action in favor of their preferred way of life because they are convinced that this might be dangerous for the future of the Georgian people. Are they right? Who knows? Maybe yes, maybe not! ‘Yes’ because Georgia definitely needs heterosexual marital relations, reinforcing a traditional family, based on love between two different sexes, conducive to the enhancement of now fallen demographic numbers in the country, plus the question of shattered traditional understanding of morality. (Incidentally, what is ‘moral’ and what is ‘immoral’ stands out as separate topic of the day to deliberate on). ‘No’ because we must certainly be good and kind and tolerant to each other, notwithstanding the physical ways and means of mating. The picture in the West is not as gloomy and dark as here in Georgia, but among the Westerners too there are myriad conservatives, who would never admit that the gay way of life is agreeable and pleasing. Some of them would even openly obstruct it quite belligerently. I have never seen in America during my long life there heterosexual parents who would gladly receive a revelation of the fact of gaiety on part of their son or daughter, especially if they are asking for their parents’ blessing for marrying their partners of the same sex. Imagine a straight good old American gentleman, who is forced into accepting a fact of having in his long-nurtured family a male daughter-in-law, in other words, his only beloved son’s male wife. Most good old Americans would at least be embarrassed if not suicidal at all. You see, the situation is tricky everywhere. I can understand that almost half of the world has legalized the same-sex marriage, and Georgia is on its way to follow the suit, but whether this is wrong or right only the future will show us. The inevitable thing is that Georgia will have to stay in step with the rest of the world even if the birthrate is tragically threatened here. In the globalized world, you can at some point barricade the onslaught of all kinds of innovations and originalities, that are very hard to accept and get used to, but you cannot do it at all times and in all cases. Eventually, you will have to succumb because the advent of those new tendencies is extremely powerful. It is the current generation of Georgian traditional thinkers and believers, who still suppose that we are different from the rest of the world, but the time is approaching real fast when opposing the laws like the above said anti-discriminatory one will be just another bizarre act for cats to laugh. If the medical science says that the sexual orientation is in human genes and not only on human minds, then being what you actually are is going to be a very regular thing. There goes a saying in the Georgian language that a sated man will never understand how the hungry one feels. Same in the event of sexual orientation! Straight men and women will always question the gay people’s direction of thought and call of body, even if they manage to skillfully obfuscate their genuine attitude, but our civility and sense of reason are prompting us persistently that we must let everybody be what we in reality are. After all, what matters most is the happiness of a human being if the tools of achieving that happiness are in no way destructing the happiness of another human being. No room for bigotry and prejudice anymore!

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