Male VS Female in Georgia
30 October, 2014
Male VS Female in Georgia
Male VS Female! There is nothing terribly new in this trivial juxtaposition – old, familiar and universally recognized. Only, we do not very well know and recognize the reasons of their confrontational unity. We only want to be living with their conciliatory togetherness. The latter is easier to entertain, that’s why! Science probably knows numerous facts of research into this curious phenomenon, and I might not be fully informed about the lore, so far accumulated. The aim of my black-and-white deliberati
on on the matter is much simpler – Georgia has all of a sudden embarked on unambiguous pondering over the mystery of male violence against their female partners, precipitously expounding its roots and prerequisites. Hence, I would like to look into the problem as far as the scope of this article allows. My main question is why should a nation which has always idolized a woman – formally at least – is now faced with the problem of omnipresent violating of the female part of our population by the male segment of it. I think the problem has always been out there but it was sitting deeply in the closet, exactly like homosexual relations which today has turned into a subject of the widest possible public controversy. As a matter of fact, the dilemma of violence is global and not very simple to handle offhand. The smaller the world becomes the faster those major human problems tend to be internationalized. Georgia has claimed to be part of the western way of life and thinking, and accordingly, all societal pitfalls and human weaknesses that Europe and America have been screaming about in the last hundred years are rising to the surface here in Georgia too – freedom of word, gay lifestyle, pedophilia, premarital sex, shacking up, room-mating, cheating on a spouse, gender equality, human rights, abortion, sexual education, machismo, domestic violence, ethnic elitism, caveat emptor, etc. All these issues were tabooed not very long ago. Today, the most informed part of our public has made them the subject of open discussion with a sincere desire to find solutions. Domestic violence is the hottest issue on the public agenda at this very moment. Georgians are a toasting nation. We toast! We toast while drinking. Toasting is in our flesh and blood. We cannot do without toasting. In Georgia, toasting is what gives sense to a natural process of consuming food and imbibing alcohol. If Georgians stop toasting, one may think that something wrong has gone with this nation. So far, the institution of toasting is firmly in place and no modern criticism has enough power to alter anything although some hesitance is permeating the tradition. One of the most beloved themes for toasting is laudations, addressed to women – mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, aunts and grandmas – who our men tend to praise profusely, and maybe sincerely too. Toasting means praying for them and wishing them well. And the toast-makers are men, as a rule. The selfsame man, having gotten drunk while toasting, may very well go for bullying and beating their mates, especially when the bully is confident that the punishment is not going to ensue. Isn’t it a shame that the guarantee to get away with violence would encourage our males to feel free to beat their females black-and-blue, and even kill them? I am not certain though how fair it might be to generalize this judgment but the fact is that the subject has become an issue which has attracted a great deal of attention of our unsuspecting society. The issue is being discussed on the air all the time, the newspaper articles are running with maximum frequency and the preoccupied folks are out in the street with manifestations. This all means that the society feels ill at ease with the topic of the day being so horrifying. Looking for the reasons and motivators of domestic violence in the world in general and in Georgia in particular might take us too far away into social, economic and psychological depths. As a matter of fact, the problem is as old as dirt and as ubiquitous as pigeons around, but the global level of incidence of domestic violence will not justify the indigenous dire picture. The moral burden of our community and the responsibility of our male population may not be alleviated in Georgia for a simple reason that the rest of the world is so bad. Strong-malevolent-men-assaulting-weak-benevolent-women – this has not been the most commonplace male-female-coexistence stereotype in Georgia. On the other hand, who knows, it could have been a case, but it was not registered as often as it is now. If we delve into the situation a little deeper, we might find some active causes of violence like the commonplace anger of men who cannot make money and pour out their exasperation on their family members, habitual male dominance in the family, low educational level, no sense of civilized male-to-female relationships, loss of love, absence of sensitivity towards the fair sex in general, morbid macho morality, female tendency of gender equality, abuse of physical strength, indulgence in alcohol usage, drug addiction, selfish exploitation of male superego, complex of inferiority, cowardice, meanness of character, baseness of behavior, impiety, famed female leniency and everlasting penchant to keep a family intact, etc. These are almost all presumable reasons I could throw in at this moment, and I think all of them are present in our everyday life. At the same time, it would be clearly unfair towards the male part of our population to put all the blame of violence on them. Sense of violence and the abuse of power might as well be characteristic to the female section of our society. Plenty of means and ways of violence are in their hands too but the sympathy is usually preponderating towards women because they are physically weaker and they become the victims of violence much oftener than their male partners. In a word, violence needs prevention and this should be taken care of without any delay – shelters, programs, hotlines, community alert, revelation of facts, publication of instructions, special training centers, and adoption fairer, stronger and executable laws, curbing violence without failure, this all being the prerogative of government because it is the government in the first place who should be the strongest custodian of human rights. And domestic violence is the worst violence of the much talked about human rights.



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